Its that time of year again when people everywhere are setting goals. And it seems that all of these goals pretty much fall into one of three main categories: Get out of debt, organize the house, and get into shape. (No matter how wonderfully they are worded, or with what determination they are set they all seem to fit nicely into one of those three areas.)
And while those are all worthy goals, I was thinking that maybe there were some other goals that rarely get set. And these resolutions may be just as beneficial as the others….and are possibly even easier to keep.
#1. MIND YOUR MANNERS
Please. Thank you. You Are Welcome. Such short easy words to say….but rarely ones I hear anymore. And how about holding the door for someone else…even if they are a stranger? Or waiting for a pedestrian to cross the road?
The other day I let a lady go in front of me in the checkout line because she only had a few items and my cart was loaded. When I asked if she would like to go in front of me she stared at me…suspicious of my intentions. So I explained my reasoning and she went ahead….but kept glancing back at me and my cart as if at anytime I was going to attack and pounce her loaf of bread. It was funny. And sad. Have we fallen so far that when someone has manners we suspect them of something nefarious?
Maybe. But we can change that. We can cause a revolution! Let’s bring back manners!
#2. OBEY TRAFFIC LAWS
Buckle Up. Drive the Speed Limit. Stop Texting. Don’t Drive Drunk. Let People Merge! Stop Tailgating.
Wouldn’t that make everyone’s commute better?
#3. LET THE SUNSHINE IN
The 5th Dimension knew what they were talking about (at least in the chorus) when they said, “Let the Sunshine, Let the Sunshine In, The Sunshine In!”
When its daylight open those drapes and blinds. Let the natural light fill your home, apartment, office, whatever.
Or even better if you can steal away on your break, lunchtime, or whenever you can catch a minute, walk outside…in the sunlight…feel it on your face. Your mental heath will thank you for it.
We all have too much stuff. Extra clothes, shoes, blankets, etc that we just are not using.
But someone else could.
Find a closet in your home where you could park a box. Then each month as you go about your business look for things you don’t use but just take up space (those old winter boots, the maroon set of towels from Aunt Matilda, that extra set of dishes you got for your wedding…and have never used).
As you identify the items take them and place them in your box. When the box is full take the contents to the charity drop off location of your choice. (Aren’t sure where the nearest one is? Google it! You’ll be surprised by your choices.)
Then repeat, repeat, repeat.
Your house will thank you and the family using crazy Aunt Matilda’s bath towels will thank you to.
#5. FIND QUIET TIME
Everyday we are surrounded by so much noise…traffic, the phone, the computer, television, radio…it gets hard to think.
Try to carve out a few minutes of quiet for yourself…to be alone and quiet…to recharge and center yourself. Everyone needs down time, if only for a few minutes.
(As a mother of young children I know this is hard…but you need it. I KNOW you need it.)
#6. FORGIVE SOMEONE
Some people are jerks. And they do mean things. And you want to punch them in the face. Really hard. Everyday for a year. But that is not what this resolution is advocating. (Because jail is not delightful.)
What it is advocating however, is that you pick someone and forgive them. Even if they don’t apologize and even if they do deserve the 365 days worth of upper cuts.
Why? Because you will feel better.
You will feel better.
Make that peace inside of yourself. Frankly forgive and move on. (You don’t even need to tell them they are forgiven if you don’t want to.) But let go of that control they have over you. Forgive so you can heal.
Loud and proud. In the shower. In the car. While making dinner. Whenever the urge strikes.
Just….well…Let it go!
(That’s right I said “Let it Go!” as in “…Don’t hold it back anymore!”)
It makes you feel better. (Unless you catch yourself singing “Working 9 to 5” out loud… at a crowded gym…full of bench pressing dudes…but other than that it does make you feel better.)
Sure, you may feel silly at first but who cares? Belt out your favorite tunes. Release that American Idol. It would do us all some good to spend a few minutes being the star of our own musical everyday.
#8. ENJOY MORE HELLO AND LESS LOL
I miss people. Their faces and their voices. Sure I love my emojis a lot, perhaps too much. But I miss real LOL-ing with my BFF’s.
Can we call each other and just talk? Or better yet let’s visit face to face…in person, and not through a computer screen.
I know that isn’t always possible but when it is….I’d love to see your face.
#9. GET MORE SLEEP
Who puts this on their new year’s resolution list?
5 hours isn’t cutting it.
I need more sleep and I would bet you do to.
We’d all be happier and drink way less caffeine if we could catch some Z’s. So turn off your computer, the TV, or that game and go to bed. Seriously. Go to sleep.
How great would it be if everyone did just one nice thing a week for someone else?
Anything from donating blood, to buying the persons drink behind you in line.
Take in your neighbor’s garbage can. Give that homeless guy a sandwich. Hold the door open for the mom with her arms full of groceries.
Once a week. Something to lighten someone else’s load.
That would be awesome.
#11. PLAY WELL WITH OTHERS
Just be nice.
And give more compliments while you’re at it. You fabulous goal setter you. 🙂
#12. DRINK MORE WATER
When is the last time you drank your 8-10 glasses of water per day?
That is what I thought.
Clean it up! And drink it down.
(Your skin, eyes, and kidneys will thank you.)
So there you have it.
A dozen new years resolutions that nobody is making…but maybe they should be….
(It’s not too late…you could still add some of them to your list! At the very least you could sing in the shower for a few minutes….)