When a friend looses a loved one sometimes it is hard to know how to best show them love and support.
And I’m not very good at those situations…basically all I do is a lot of crying with and for them….and I always want to give them something…something useful….
Over the past few years I’ve found a few things that seem to be both useful and will let them know that I care (and are surprisingly not hard to do). Giving, even in times of sadness, doesn’t need to be monumental. It can be something simple. Like two of my most often given gifts:
Pocket sized Kleenex packets.
Both items are useful. But depending on the friend I know which one would prefer a vintage handkerchief, freshly bleached and pressed or which one would rather have some disposable tissues to keep handy as they navigate their way through the funeral and viewings.
I usually give either one of these with a card or written note expressing my love and concern for them.
Then there are times when hankies and tissues aren’t enough and at these times my most favorite thing to give is a quilt.
Quilts are always welcome. They are warm and comforting and perfect for curling up on the couch with and healing.
And because I like to sew I always try to have a quilt or two in the process or finished to have on hand for when the need arises.
It’s not a perfect system. And no amount of tissues or blankets can make up for the loss of the loved one but hopefully by giving others these small tokens of my affection they will feel the love and support that I want to give them.