I have been thinking about kindness lately in lots of different areas of my life. I was at school performance last month and was a bit late so I was sitting in the back…and halfway during the performance I couldn’t even hear a thing on at the front because so many parents were talking (loudly) in the back. I felt badly, mostly because I was a teacher and I full-well knew the hours that had gone in to teaching the kids those songs. I felt badly that half of the room was talking so loudly and not listening to their children. It was unkind.
Then recently I went to the grocery store, where it was late and I shouldn’t have been there with a hungry four year old who was grumpy and tired. And an older woman let me go ahead of her in line….she was so kind.
And so I have been thinking about my own behavior. Am I kind? No, not just on the surface kind, or kind when it is convenient…but am I kind?
No, not always. Sometimes I am in a rush and forget about kindness.
But it does matter. Kindness matters. Even when I am grumpy or tired or really don’t want to do something.
So, because I do know in my head that kindness matters, I gave myself a goal this month to be kind. And because I need something tangible to keep myself on track…every time I am about to say something or do something, I am asking myself, “is it kind?”
You know what? It’s working little by little. I am finding more patience that I didn’t even know existed. And I am finding my heart changing. And even in those moments when I was unkind, I can recognize it more–and do something about it the next time it comes up.
Are there ways in your life that you have found to be more kind? Tangible and practical? I really would love to hear them.